I know I'll get downwoted for this, nevertheless ..
I don't know how about Steven and Nicola, however I myself would mind having certain intimate moments shared with general public (e.g. overheard phone conversations, etc ..)
Having sad that, I feel for Steve's and Nicola family. It's always tough.
No need for the preface - it's a fair thing to say.
I hemmed and hawed about whether to post this article at all for this exact reason. In the end I decided that if I was going to post it I should be both respectful and truthful.
I probably could've worded it better. I probably could've added some disclaimer that this is true as far as I remember, but my memory is fallible.
[Edit, as I hit post too soon]:
Either way, I tried to be polite about it. This tragedy struck during a crunch time when a lot of us were feeling the need to rally together in order to make the big win. Any married person who chooses to work late on occasion experiences such a phone call.
To be clear, I didn't hear her end of any conversations. There weren't more than two or three of them that I overheard, and I wouldn't have included anything about them if I thought they were terribly personal.
The struggle between work and home life is something I experience myself. It's just another parallel I can't help but think about when trying to make sense of this situation. Not including it felt like I was leaving something important out of the story.
I think you made the right decision. This is a very touching and saddening story, and as you said, it's very hard not to put yourself in his shoes. I think about my family any time I read a story of a loss.
You have made a tribute to what sounds to be a wonderful person and a great friend. You have also helped to raise money for his family, which I'm sure will help---if not just a little bit---to put him at ease knowing that they have support. And you have brought further attention to cancer.
I hate having my personal affairs public, but in a case like this, I'd be happy to have my story known.
I think that you made the right choice, though for purely selfish reasons. This post really made an impact on me and seriously, thank you so much for publishing it exactly as it is. I appreciate it was uncomfortable and I feel horrible for his wife, family and work team, but this story seriously out some important things in perspective for me.
I don't know how about Steven and Nicola, however I myself would mind having certain intimate moments shared with general public (e.g. overheard phone conversations, etc ..)
Having sad that, I feel for Steve's and Nicola family. It's always tough.