Comments that assert that genetic inheritance determines life outcomes are not what we want on HN. It has very ugly implications that I don't need to spell out. And it's personal for me because I, and others I know and love, have put a lot of work over many years into overcoming inner obstacles that were said by "experts" to be "hard-wired" traits.
We want HN to be a place for talking about expanding people's possibilities, not limiting them.
The point is that much of what is generally considered to be "hard wired" is not as immutable as we think. There are many different ways to improve our circumstances and options. I've explored several with good results, and seen others apply different ones with good results.
Given my role here is a moderator, It's not appropriate for me to be giving out health/life advice, and it's always the case that professional mental health treatment should be sought if there's risk of self-harm. But you're welcome to email us at hn@ycombinator.com if you think we may be able to help point you in the right direction.
Although, my bio parents and grandparents were white-collar or white collar adjacent at least. And one of my bio grandpa was very conscientious and active well into old age
