I managed to get SSHFS working on Mac w/o using macFuse, by using Docker as an intermediate and connecting it to the Mac via a Samba share.
Performance seems okay.
I was mostly curious if it could be done, but also would rather not install custom kexts.
The README needs some work... I just put it together.
Biggest struggle I had was getting r/w access, and not just read-only.
https://github.com/jzombie/sshfs-mac-docker
Have you checked out FUSE-T? It's made for that. https://github.com/macos-fuse-t/fuse-t