You mentioned the biggest offending platform, facebook. I look at my feed and see people, my age and older, go into minute detail about their everyday lives. I look at reddit and see young men and women expose themselves for no reason in particular. Then you have people who act surprised when their very public actions are used against them or in ways that they didnt expect.

I have no problem with people choosing to share their name, build their brand, and use it to network because they are typically aware of the potential downsides to doing such things. It is the lax actions of the kids that bother me the most. That picture of yourself you posted is now on the internet where it will most likely live forever. That [rac|sex|age|etc.]ist post you put on twitter/facebook will live with you. Shit, wasnt there a post a few weeks back about banks scouring your facebook situation to determine your credit worthiness? There was an npr story about how a guy developed an iphone app that could take your picture, scan fb, find your page, find other pics of you online, and guess your social -- just from a single picture.

I just need to get with the times in a lot of cases, but oversharing is something that I'm not cool with.

I've always write with my real name in professional forums, like this. But I don't have a Facebook or Google+ account. It's the personal part that concerns me. I feel that social sistes have all the wrong incentives about privacy.

I could use a more private solution. Actually I think that it's something people want and sooner or later someone will figure out how to make a "more private social" site.