I've definitely noticed there is a difference between communities. Of course, no community is "perfect", and a lot of times conflicts happen just because someone having a bad day or lost their temper. That's okay, part of the human condition and all of that.
What matters is 1) how you deal with things when someone is having a bad day (things can either cool down or escalate), and 2) how you deal with people who seem to be having bad days almost every day (i.e. assholes).
If you don't do anything then all communities will gravitate towards toxicity; simply because non-assholes will get tired of assholes and will stop coming back, and then all you're left with are ... assholes, and people with above-average patience.
What matters is 1) how you deal with things when someone is having a bad day (things can either cool down or escalate), and 2) how you deal with people who seem to be having bad days almost every day (i.e. assholes).
If you don't do anything then all communities will gravitate towards toxicity; simply because non-assholes will get tired of assholes and will stop coming back, and then all you're left with are ... assholes, and people with above-average patience.