The conflict that we create over the years of parenting will affect our relationships with our children. I never want my children to spend time with me because they feel obligated, but because they enjoy being with me.
The goal of parenting is to get your child to adopt your value system. Children may be grateful for what you made of them, but they still might not like you later. For me, that is failure.
For us, parenting is a balance between pushing kids past their own laziness so they benefit later in life, and enjoying relationship with them now and, hopefully, in the future.
My wife and I seek long-term quality relationships with our children. Relationships are based on common value systems, regardless of what those values are. (link to small pdf book http://media.blackstripespublishing.com/RelationshipAndValue...).
The conflict that we create over the years of parenting will affect our relationships with our children. I never want my children to spend time with me because they feel obligated, but because they enjoy being with me.
The goal of parenting is to get your child to adopt your value system. Children may be grateful for what you made of them, but they still might not like you later. For me, that is failure.
For us, parenting is a balance between pushing kids past their own laziness so they benefit later in life, and enjoying relationship with them now and, hopefully, in the future.