The problem is that if you have kids, it's going to be almost impossible for both of you to get an alone day and still have time to do things together.
Yep, that's probably a big reason people just aren't having many or any kids these days.
Back in the "old days", people lived with multiple generations under one roof and with their extended families. So raising kids was easier because you had a lot of help: grandparents, uncles/aunts, etc. Then the "nuclear family" came along in the 50s and things started falling apart. It was OK for a while because women were relegated to near-slavery, but then things changed and we had two working parents, and then there wasn't enough time to parent properly.
