> I think one month is a bit long to have to wait for a response.
You're certainly entitled to that opinion, but the amount of time that is "acceptable" is completely subjective and relative. Holding someone else to your own arbitrary standards of acceptability is exactly what I'm referring to when I say these sort of complaints usually ignore the possibility that someone else's life is different than one's own.
I can see how a month would seem like a long time, it used to seem like a long time for me too. But for someone running a company, someone with a crazy family life, someone maintaining several projects, someone getting married or divorced or having kids, someone buying a house or selling a house or moving, someone in school, someone having financial troubles, etc., etc.; a month can be a blink of an eye. You, of course, are welcome to your opinion. I try to avoid holding people for whom I know nothing about to my own arbitrary standards, and try to withhold indignation if they don't live up to them. I admit it takes effort; I often find myself doing exactly that. I just have to remind myself that I can't really know them to the extent that I know myself, and thus it's not always fair to expect that their situation lends itself to meeting my standards.
EDIT: All that being said, I think the pull request hack could be a potential solution. It does however bring its own potential problems. You're basically putting your reputation in someone else's hands, whom you don't know. Of course that may be preferable to what you're doing to your reputation by taking a long time to respond to requests. I'm certainly considering it for a couple projects.
> Holding someone else to your own arbitrary standards of acceptability is exactly what I'm referring to when I say these sort of complaints usually ignore the possibility that someone else's life is different than one's own.
I agree with the spirit with what you're saying, this is indeed all opinion.
I see it like this; if you're walking along and say "hi" to your neighbour, he doesn't have to say "hi" back, but it's nice, 'sall :)
I agree. I certainly don't feel like we're arguing, just adding more pieces to both sides of the puzzle.
I guess what I'm saying is, if the neighbor doesn't say "hi" back, it might be for reasons you haven't considered, and it might not be as simple as asking them to just say "hi" back.
Context and scale are extremely relevant here. I can say "hi" to every stranger I pass while hiking on a remote forest trail. However, I cannot say "hi" to everyone I pass walking down the street in Manhattan. Snubbing the passerby in the forest would feel rude. Ignoring the passerby in the city is normal.
You're certainly entitled to that opinion, but the amount of time that is "acceptable" is completely subjective and relative. Holding someone else to your own arbitrary standards of acceptability is exactly what I'm referring to when I say these sort of complaints usually ignore the possibility that someone else's life is different than one's own.
I can see how a month would seem like a long time, it used to seem like a long time for me too. But for someone running a company, someone with a crazy family life, someone maintaining several projects, someone getting married or divorced or having kids, someone buying a house or selling a house or moving, someone in school, someone having financial troubles, etc., etc.; a month can be a blink of an eye. You, of course, are welcome to your opinion. I try to avoid holding people for whom I know nothing about to my own arbitrary standards, and try to withhold indignation if they don't live up to them. I admit it takes effort; I often find myself doing exactly that. I just have to remind myself that I can't really know them to the extent that I know myself, and thus it's not always fair to expect that their situation lends itself to meeting my standards.
EDIT: All that being said, I think the pull request hack could be a potential solution. It does however bring its own potential problems. You're basically putting your reputation in someone else's hands, whom you don't know. Of course that may be preferable to what you're doing to your reputation by taking a long time to respond to requests. I'm certainly considering it for a couple projects.